• Ernesto L. Brea

Low Self Esteem

Updated: Jun 6, 2021


Feelings Dragging you Down

Low self-esteem can be dragging you down in several ways. First, on an emotional level, you can feel under confident, useless, angry, sad, and depressed all because you suffer from self-esteem problems. In a practical situation, such as work, self-esteem issues could be holding you back from a deserved promotion, from gaining a new job at a new workplace, or from forming relationships that are truly valuable to you. Letting these feelings take over your life is going to continue to let problems arise for your emotional wellbeing.

There are solutions. Several magazines, news articles, websites, and therapist handouts offer you a process for working through to a more confident life. Bookshelves in numerous bookstores are filled with self-help books, dealing with confidence and the lack of it. The key is for you to find something you can take seriously; a way for you to focus and tackle the emotions weighing you down.

Remember to take it one step at a time. Changing one emotion, one thing in your life, can help lead you to a more confident situation.

Reasons for Low Self-esteem

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Another reason for confidence issues is a direct result of negative words being spoken. Perhaps it is too often that you heard certain phrases or experienced rejection. If this is the case, then seeking help to work through negative emotions to think more positively is one way to gain a more positive emotion about you.

Steps to Seek a Better Outlook

Each person is different. For some, going to support groups, is no problem. They find help and feel better talking with others. Other individuals find help from therapists to rebuild or build self-esteem. Often a combination helps.


If you have negative thoughts about you and wish to find confidence, there are plenty of worksheets that can help. Assess the negative thought, assess how you reacted, figure out how you could have reacted better, and devise a system to react better in the future so as to reduce the negative thoughts for more positive thoughts.

One potential choice is to use a diary. Each day of the year, write down one thing you accomplished or remember accomplishing in the past. By reminding yourself of the good things, you start to retrain your brain to think positively, versus negatively.

While you have some suggestions on what you can do to address low self-esteem, remember it is only possible to address your feelings or thoughts if you are committed to doing so. You have to be open, willing, and follow through to be successful and sometimes this takes a bit of a helping hand.

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