Coping with Big Life Changes
Change can throw up myriad negative emotions, even when the change is welcome. An unwelcome or sudden change can cause an even greater degree of anxiety and fear. The fear of the unknown is a natural human trait, and big change always involves stepping into the unknown. Rather than keeping your feelings to yourself, it is important to talk to someone about what you feel. Simply talking to someone about our feelings and insecurities at a difficult time can be very useful and counselling involves doing this in an open and non judgemental way with a professional therapist.
It is OK to feel the way you feel
Coping with a big life change involves taking small steps. An important step is to break tasks down into small and manageable chunks so as to accomplish what needs to be done without getting overwhelmed. It is also important when faced with a life changing situation not to get pressured. There is often societal pressure on an individual to deal with something in a certain way. It is important to take things at one’s own pace, and to react to things the way one really feels. Counselling can help one understand and accept that there is no ‘right way’ to react to a stressful situation and cope in their own way.
Finding support to help you through the journey
Human beings are emotional creatures, and creatures of habit. The mind as well as the body needs time to cope with the change. Whether it is a move to a different city, a divorce, or loss of a loved one, a big change leaves a void in the mind which needs time to heal. Counselling and therapy can be effective in dealing with the mental and physical fatigue that change can cause as they allow one to cope with their personal challenge at their own pace, while providing one with the coping tools required to face the change.
It is natural for our limitations and insecurities to rise to the surface when faced with any challenging situation – and a big change is also a big challenge. In case of a life changing situation such as the end of a significant relationship or losing a job, strong feelings of hopelessness and helplessness may be felt. Therapy and counselling can help deal with these negative emotions.
Whether it is a change that causes grief and pain or a welcome change, the fact is that big change is daunting and causes us to resist it. Adjusting to the change and dealing with the emotions it brings can be very challenging and it is important to acknowledge it and give ourselves the time and space needed to cope. Outside help such as group therapy and counselling should be sought as they can provide guidance on how best to cope and heal.